Note: This post was written in partnership with YMC Media and K-Y. We received compensation as part of this partnership
Confidence and Motherhood.
Have you ever heard two words that felt so critically important to exist together, yet felt so dang difficult at the same time?
Finding confidence in your parenting, in your postpartum healing, and confidence in your new self… whew, that’s a doozy. Add in a newborn, and maybe even a toddler or two, and I mean… it sometimes feels like you can’t even remember who you were before you had kids.
After having our kids, I felt like I was re-establishing my life across the board. How would I mother? What was the best physical fitness for my new body? What does my career look like now? How do I prioritize and empower the relationship with my husband? No but seriously, how do we even make time for that?!
And that last one? It’s a big one. And there aren’t a lot of people talking about it. Finding a new rhythm with your partner after having kids (for sexy time, and just regular time!) is HARD guys. It’s honestly something I didn’t ever think I’d be talking about on the internet (sorry dad!), but I feel like I need to.
Because new moms? We go through the ringer. We put pressure on ourselves in every way possible. Including the pressure we heap on to get our sex life ‘back to what it was before”.
But here’s the thing. NOTHING IS LIKE IT WAS BEFORE. Not your life, not your time, and not your body. Like actually not your body. Basically every single part of your body (and life!) will change while you’re surviving with a new baby. And yep. All those changes? They can also make intimacy a whole lot less appealing.
So, let’s talk about that for a minute. Because it’s the team at K-Y that pushed me out of my comfort zone and inspired me to write this post. They’re doing amazing things right now to empower women to take back control of their sex lives. And it’s honestly so important.
Because ladies? We put enough pressure on ourselves. Let’s take the shame out of our game, and embrace this stage of life we’re in. Sexy time, regular time, whatever time. Let’s find our new normal, worry less about whether it’s “the same” as it was before, and embrace who we are right this minute. Because I’m willing to bet you’re pretty dang awesome.
And also, because you’re awesome (and if you’re reading this, you’re probably a mom and in need of some relaxation!), K-Y is giving away 4 spa gift cards worth $1000 each! So you’re going to want to run over HERE and enter that bad boy ASAP!
